I have to live with it now. Thank you, I would love some help with my tale of woe. About 3 and a half years ago I lied to her about my brother dying. On the date, I am planning on taking her to an aquarium(cause shes never been and has wanted to go), take her for lunch, and then take her to a special place where weve had good memories (Lake Las Vegas), and I plan on playing the first guitar song Ive ever sang to her when we first began dating. I want to hate him because I think hes a horrible human being as she is for having done this when he should have just left if he wasnt happy. Im moving out for the 3rd time and I fear I am making a mistake, that I may lose him forever, but at the time it feels right, but after talking it doesnt but I already have the place took $ out of as a loan on my 401k but I didnt sign the lease and I know my friends would say Im being stupid for staying. Hi, Cater to him and perhaps that will show him that you are not selfish after all. Dear Memers i need your advise i have been in a relationship my this guy for one yr. at first he used to communicate with me daily but in the last three months he stop. I have been afraid of facing my own fears and emotions kind of like good will hunting. Craig, please dont take into yourself your gfs behavior. i really hurt my boyfriend this time i dont think he will forgive me, always when he was talking to me i ignored him only now i realize that i have hurt himi. Be happy to hear your advice. For sufferers, the affair remains a black hole permanently fixed at. In my heart we were true soulmates. Hey Steve, thanks for commenting on my article and on your sincere remorse. Until The past month, it has been torturous for both of us. Trust me, you do. And he wants to know why and how things would be different now. I have not let go of the good him and thats what I been holding on to I know what he is now and i have so many emotions and I feel like I can save him or should I say my heart tells me to save him and my mind knows he is gone I hate that Im in this situation and my family has cut me off for marrying him and Im ashamed to talk about it to my friends around me but they know heroin is really bad in ky right now and they ask me all time why is he always loaded Im just trying to get mentally unwind from him and I just exploding on the inside. He doesnt seem to need to discuss our future. I was hurt by my ex, I caught him sending sex pics to some random girl that he talked to years before claiming we were broke up. He could not understand that respect is given but trust is earned. But its so far gone, that even fixing it is painful. I want to give get as much of the world as I can and give her a life worth living. and i accept my mistake that i have been a brat and lied to him. He has been doing it ever since. We all go through hell. And he does not know how to get back to the place he would prefer to be with you as a family, but in love as well. That was his error. And his reasons are quite vague, saying that he feels stuck and trapped and cant see any other way out but to separate. I dont know what to do anymore. My husband walked back to his side of the car, got in & we drove away. We kept fighting because he didnt spend enough time with me, sometimes he preferred to be alone than to come to my friends birthday parties or because he insisted on wearing a hat that looked so bad. Their messages are private. Everything I did I really do deeply regret. He met a girl and decided to stay out late night and I caught him by calling her # she denied and he all did and then he said wasnt like that but he had a 30 min conversation with the following day.we talked n he promised he would change the following week he did it again and I caught her text him saying prove it your not with her.that morning I confronted him and he asked me and my daughter to leave the house since had feelings for this person.i moved out and Im really sad cus he didnt care one bit the damage he caused and now blames.me that whatever he had going on isnt there with that girl. My response to that is: Okay, and what happens in 2 years when your dopamine goes down and the seratonin levels go up again? A bit of advice from me to you: But this means that you become vulnerable. I am in an awesome mood at work. so you shouldnt to bother with sluggish net relationship. We still really love each other but are trying to get some space now to figure out if we can make this work. Hello, She said she opens up and I close off and hurt her again and she wants out, she does not want to be intimate ever, ever again and she doesnt want a relationship with me in the future. Please help! My intention was purely to ditch her but I want too sure enough if I could. Does that make sense to you? Let me answer another question you dont ask: How could he have grown to not like ME? I dont know how to get past this second betrayal so soon on the heals of the first. My boyfriend and I met 2 years ago, I fell for him first sight. Before giving up on the marriage, she should give that a try. What should i do? I said so you guys planned this?. I have just been dumped by my soulmate. I just want to be free of the anxiety my head believes is caused by him. A few hours later we left the workshop & came home. The relationship didnt end up with me stalking her or hating her and I think thats a sign of maturity. I tried to tell him how hurt I was but he felt if he showed me he loved me then I shouldnt worry about his crazy ex. Hi Shay, But only God knows what is best. Hi, my girlfriend and i were together for about 5 years, we met in high school and became very close very quickly. I realize I have questioned everything he does and turned around everything he said. John R. Rice. He calls my sister and tells her he really loves me, but I didnt treat him right. This past week she saw that I was very unhappy and that it was causing a lot of problems to our relationship so she decided to close the open relationship, now idk what to think. And I have no advice for you. We talked about what we would do if I was and he kept pushing me to consider abortion, but although I support a womans right to her own body I couldnt fathom the idea at first. There was a few weeks were it looked like could with things out but now Im not sure. It was been practically perfect. He bought a fancy car and started dressing really nice. But she was okay with her role in his life as long as she had him and that hed have to put up with me his bm drama. I have been with my partner 21 years! Its like hes stalling to even try to make progress. I hold so much anger for him. He says he didnt tell her he wanted to work things out but she told me he did. This is provided he is willing to go in that direction. Cheating involves a lot of hurtful secrecy, so you'll know he wants to make things work with you if he's suddenly more open, honest, and genuine than ever before . It is an awful hurt that comes with this type of break up and I have empathy and can see his point. Shes been cursing me since last Thursday final cut off. The flirting still hurt though, so I complained and he kind of stopped. I am absolutely heart broken and I have no one else other than him and my son. She lied down straight in my bed. I spent a lot of time with my now-ex and realized that she was more marriage material than my then-girlfriend, so I broke up with her and got with my ex 3 months later. Her parents were divorced at 19 and her mother took her and moved across the country, mother eventually remarrying. I got really desperate. Shes obviously not in good shape where is she right now but i am definitely not falling for another trap. I have been in a relationship that operates like a marriage for 6 years w/my boyfriend. Even after all the things he has said. If I did, I simply talked briefly because she was asking for money basically. I only want to mend his hurt but it seems like I sabotage everything. we have come to an ugly in pass where my depression and his drinking was out of control and hurting our family. But Im trying and Im fighting for our relationship and it seems to me at this point, that hes not. My gf and I were together almost 5 years and had a son together. Same interests similar upbringings and he really is just a sweet genuine guy. She is my first real long term relationship but its mainly because Im very specific on who I want to give myself too. Why would the woman I love take something from my past and stab me in the back with it? It was our anniversary the other day and he didnt say or even do anything, so I didnt remind him at 10 pm on valentines day I got a, oh its valentines day, happy valentines day babe, ha ha I beat you. I realize that Im making this about me by even asking this question, and that I need to make this about him right nowwhat he needs to try and heal. But I respect her choice and stayed away. My wife feels so wronged by the past, whether entirely correctly or not, that shell curse me out and call me names, put me down and insult me over everything small and big. I am on the reject list. He thinks Im really that mean,fussy, negative and everything else person that he had seen all these years. I still feel hurt and betrayed by my ex and sometimes i still cry about it or feel down about it. I think thats what happened. Ever since we had that fall out hes like a changed man. Ps. The challenges you face in your marriage might leave you feeling like the union is over and that it's time to separate. As such, he will see the difference. I have been clean since the last time, in March. That said, if you were disrespectful because you knew something was going on, then right there you have something to think about you were not assertive. You need to understand who you really are before trying to present who you think you are to someone else. Is it possoble and whar should I do. 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